Hello readers,
here at WCDT, our goal is to help families achieve the plan God has for marriage/families. Discipline is probably one of the most controversial topics there is about families. This page is all about the power we are all given as parents - Discipline. First lets get to the root of the word. What is discipline in parenting? Many think discipline means "I'm the parent so I can tell them what to do" but even though we have that ability, that is not what its for. Discipline is the tool that God gave us to help teach our kids the way they need to live and the way we use it can teach kids the wrong thing. Let's go step by step:
Spanking:
This is a tool that kinda goes hand in hand with yelling. Although sometimes it can be very affective, most kids aren't going to learn the right way by a physical hit or a loud voice. Most likely all you'll get is a traumatized child to afraid to seek wisdom from his parents. Sometimes you have to teach them without being aggressive but that doesn't mean be soft either. Its like a dog, you cant yell a command at him but you also cant whisper it at him either. You may think "If spanking doesn't work then what does?" Easy! Talking with your kid and discussing what they did wrong works very well. To make them learn more out of the situation, ask them questions like "why was that wrong?" or "what could you have done better?"
yelling: Many use yelling and many also say yelling is a way they handle anger <. Right there, see the word with an arrow pointing at it? That's the key word of why this method may not be affective. Simply yelling is usually not going to work and you probably get frustrated when it doesn't. Kids are very hard to teach and that's because they are human. Since they are human, they do have feelings so saying things like "you know better" and "I can't believe you would do/just did that." isn't going to go so well. Also when you yell or "raise your voice" at your kids, it can make them afraid to come to you. When your kind does something and he knows that you'll yell at him for it, more than likely he is going to be scared and hide it because he fears you. That doesn't mean you should just let him get away. You deal with the problem of course, but there is other ways of doing that. Try to figure out why your kid is misbehaving. More than likely there is something going on that is making him do this. Sometimes our own actions as parents can affect the way our kids act. If were punching walls in the middle of the night because were stressed, or unknowingly slamming a door from anger, then what do you think the kid who hears it is going to do? Try to be more understanding with your kids. Also sometimes we get annoyed and we use discipline as way to shut our kids up. When our kids are misbehaving, we need to be praying for them not just punishing them.
Do you have any other discipline topics you'd like to see here? Please send us an email or comment to let us know! Have any questions? we'd love to answer them and help you!!
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