We've all faced it...The spark isn't there anymore. What do we do when our marriage, relationship, or friendship loses the connection? When our love isn't the same anymore and doesn't seem to be enough? In these situations we begin to think it's us, that were not good enough anymore. That is 100% a lie. We try what ever we can but nothing seems to be enough. That's because your not doing the one thing you should be doing:
turn to each other in this time. When things get tough, that's when you need to hold on. It can seem scary to stay when things change but its what you have to do. If you're life depended on you winning a game, you wouldn't quit so easily. It's very easy to hit the end game button but in marriage and relationships, that button is cryptonite. Never give up on what has been put in place. Be committed to staying committed and fighting through whatever you are facing. Quitting is never going to change things or make them better.
Wednesday, January 24, 2018
Holding On When all Hope Seems Lost
Todays post goes out to all those couples and families who are struggling through a difficult time and feel all hope is lost. What do you do when their seems to be no light in view? When all hope seems lost? How do you hold on? You might read this and wonder, "yeah how?" but there is good news! There is a way...Just follow these steps
1. remind yourself that hope isn't lost. Hope is never lost, only our sight to see it.
2. Remember HOPE - Hold On Pain Ends
3. Before turning anywhere, turn to God through prayer!
4. use the bible
5. Cry, cry...and cry some more. Many people think crying is a sign of weakness but it is not. It can feel so much better to let some tears out, so don't hold back
6. Patience. This can be very tough but it is so important. It can take a lot out of someone to be patient even for a day but once you can learn to do it, it gets a bit easier
7. Acceptance. Accept that it is a difficult time right now and the road wont be easy. It will be hard, but you can do it!
8. Confidence. You absolutely MUST have confidence in your place. You are stuck in this situation and you cant change it, so make the best of it and stay strong.
9. find friends! You need support. Talk to family or find a friend who can be with you to give you company or comfort you.
10. Talk...you must talk to somebody about what you are going through. Whether you decide to write a story/blog to encourage other people (like this), or turn to family/friends for help|advice, you need to talk about the situation you are going through and how you are feeling. Are you depressed? Sad? Stressed? Scared? You need to express this to someone. You can either write it down or find someone to talk to, but you must find some way.
I really hope this has helped you. It can really help to have a group that is going through the same or similar thing you are. Find a group online or contact us. We are always available
and remember...together We Can Handle This!
1. remind yourself that hope isn't lost. Hope is never lost, only our sight to see it.
2. Remember HOPE - Hold On Pain Ends
3. Before turning anywhere, turn to God through prayer!
4. use the bible
5. Cry, cry...and cry some more. Many people think crying is a sign of weakness but it is not. It can feel so much better to let some tears out, so don't hold back
6. Patience. This can be very tough but it is so important. It can take a lot out of someone to be patient even for a day but once you can learn to do it, it gets a bit easier
7. Acceptance. Accept that it is a difficult time right now and the road wont be easy. It will be hard, but you can do it!
8. Confidence. You absolutely MUST have confidence in your place. You are stuck in this situation and you cant change it, so make the best of it and stay strong.
9. find friends! You need support. Talk to family or find a friend who can be with you to give you company or comfort you.
10. Talk...you must talk to somebody about what you are going through. Whether you decide to write a story/blog to encourage other people (like this), or turn to family/friends for help|advice, you need to talk about the situation you are going through and how you are feeling. Are you depressed? Sad? Stressed? Scared? You need to express this to someone. You can either write it down or find someone to talk to, but you must find some way.
I really hope this has helped you. It can really help to have a group that is going through the same or similar thing you are. Find a group online or contact us. We are always available
and remember...together We Can Handle This!
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